Whether you pay thousands to learn some practical self-defense skills or you are learning by working out with some friends you have to know what is realistic and important for you to learn and how to learn it.
Even if you do belong to a martial art school and have great instructors and fellow students your best guarantee in the long run for steadily improving your particular skills is to learn how to take personal control of your own progress. You do this by attaining competence in coaching skills in relation to your activity.
The more you take responsibility in learning and applying solid coaching wisdom to yourself and fellow students, as well as to what your instructors tell you (or what you hear from other experts) the more control you will have in ensuring that you personally attain realistic and useful self-defense skill levels.
Of course when dealing with your instructors and fellow students, be polite, but at some time you will need to judge things with your own mind. You may find in time you have a very individualistic view, different from many others. That isn’t necessarily good or bad, but it may be useful to your progress in the long run.
Some may be saying, “Yeah but that is why I pay a lot of money to the school, so they will show me everything I need to know and then I just have to follow their directions.” Unfortunately for some that can be the road to failure. There are schools that the instructors do train the students as coaches as they progress along learning useful skills, but there are quite a few that do not.
The point is, if you really wish to ensure you learn and continue to learn useful skills, whether in self-defense or other practical activities, you need to take personal responsibility by learning what are realistic and useful skills for you to learn at the level you are at now, then how to learn them in a safe, fun, practical and progressive way; all the while keeping your other life activities in good balance, such as family, school and work.
It is quite sane to doubt and challenge important beliefs and perceptions to ensure they are factual for you, and at what level they are factual. Of course you do this with proper care and a bit of wisdom. For instance you don’t have to get the crap beat out of you every week to know what it is like to be in a fight. There are wiser coaching methods available to one and all. Coaching has a lot to do with being scientific in your behavior.
You want to be competent, not just FEEL confident. You can feel like crap, but if you know how to change a tire you will not be walking for hours back home and getting very sore feet. You might feel FANTASTIC and POWERFUL but if you don’t know how to boil an egg you are going to be very hungry.
There is nothing wrong of course with having high hopes and being very positive, but you don’t want to cross the line to manic-delusions, especially when it comes to finding and learning practical survival skills.
Some believe that if they just visualize fighting situations and always win in them then they will always improve. I strongly suggest to those individuals to FIRST learn in the REAL WORLD some attainable proper moves, against some level of real pressures and intensities; THEN with some degree of REAL experience under their belts, go off and practice their visual games.
The point is you want to not just FEEL powerful; you want to ensure you are learning and improving PRACTICAL skills for you at your level. If you wish to have your head in the clouds then do ensure you have your feet very stably on the ground!
Jujutsu 101 is about you taking control of your self-defense progress. Check out my site at www.jujutsu101.com. I am here if you wish to share your views on this subject.
Take care and train safe.